‘I’ll Give You the Sun’ Will Give You All the Feels

Summary: Twins Jude and Noah have been practically the same person since birth, but their actions after a tragic event drive them apart. Will things ever be the same again? With alternating perspectives, a young Noah in the past and Jude in the present, the twins’ story is revealed. Jandy Nelson has crafted a beautiful novel about making your way back to the people who love you most.

Okay, okay, let me just begin with some general thoughts about ‘contemporary young adult (YA) fiction’. I feel like sometimes the idea of ‘contemporary’ is completely forgotten. The novel is great, it’s well-written, but you can’t help but think, I don’t think I would ever do/say that or That whole situation is kind of impossible. And yes I understand it’s supposed to be fiction, but I should still be able to relate to what the characters are feeling. I prefaced my review of I’ll Give You the Sun because I’m always kind of wary of contemporary YA fiction with rave reviews. However, the rave reviews are justly placed on the cover because ohmygoodness this book is fantastic. And I mean all of it: the writing, the character development, the relationships, e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. 

The characters are flawed, real people. They go through tough situations and react to them in a way that’s actually believable. This novel is definitely excellent because of it’s characters. Obviously, characters and their development are an important part of any novel, but sometimes if the plot’s interesting and there’s a couple of funny one-liners you’ll stick around to the end. But I think a true testament to an author’s craft of character is how interested you would be reading about them doing things outside the plot (hence: fan fiction). And I would literally read about any of the characters in I’ll Give You the Sun going to the grocery store or watching paint dry.

And I would literally read about any of the characters in I’ll Give You the Sun going to the grocery store or watching paint dry.

It’s hard for me to pick a favorite character, they are all so interesting and layered. I’m just going to quickly talk about Jude. But before I talk about Jude I’m going to talk about the “Strong Female Lead”. Oh, the Strong Female Lead. You see this phrase everywhere nowadays as movies and books try to show that they are not sexist and their female characters are developed. Here’s the thing though, and this is something I struggle with, I don’t think you should use the idea of a “Strong Female Lead” to market your product. It’s not just an idea for women to be “strong” because we are strong and that display of strength should not just extend to the lead character, it should be every women portrayed. Newsflash: Women are people too. Also, being “strong” doesn’t necessarily have to mean being tough. Characters can be vulnerable and a little selfish and a contradiction because people are. I think the best thing about Jude (and the other characters as well) is that they are real. So for me, Jude is a good example of a “Strong Female Lead” because she’s described and acts like a person.

It’s not just an idea for women to be “strong” because we are strong and that display of strength should not just extend to the lead character, it should be every women portrayed. Newsflash: Women are people too

Alright, I’m going to wrap this up, I know this wasn’t a very traditional book review, but I just wanted to show how I’ll Give You the Sun completely shattered my hesitations about reading it. I guess it goes to prove the adage true, you can’t judge a book by it’s cover er, genre. In conclusion: read I’ll Give You the Sun because it will give you all the feels!

I'll Give You the Sun

A Note about ‘Culture Shock’

When you type in “culture shock” on Google you get 20+ million results and top definition (courtesy of Wikipedia) is

“the personal disorientation a person may feel when experiencing an unfamiliar way of life due to immigration or a visit to a new country, a move between social environments, or simply travel to another type of life.”

It’s essentially the emotions and changes you experience when you move from one place to another. I attended a workshop/presentation on culture shock or ‘entry adjustment’ put on by my study abroad company and it really helped me understand a little bit more about culture shock and myself.

Culture is a very nuanced thing, it’s so much more than food, language, customs. It’s value systems, and relationships, and body language. We are a product of our culture, whether it be our country, local or family culture; it shapes who we are. Living in a diverse place where multiple cultures are present, I feel like I am pretty capable of balancing culture with my identity. Identity is super important, as I think no matter where you are or what type of culture you are in you should be able to maintain a core sense of yourself.

So I have been in Paris for about two weeks, and so far I haven’t really been ‘shocked’ by anything. Some may say I’m still in the honeymoon phase, but I’m not sure if I’m going to experience ‘culture shock’ like it’s presented in this graphic.

Source: http://www.teachbrave.com

I think that just goes to show that culture shock is a different experience for everyone and although there are a million graphics and articles about it, everyone’s experience is unique. I admit that right now I am experiencing some “frustration/annoyance with everyday differences” like trying to find a movie theatre, or a place to get my nails done or when I ran out of my deodorant I brought with me and had to face going into a pharmacy with brands I didn’t recognize in a language I was a beginner in. (Note: I did buy some deodorant, it worked out, I don’t smell!)

So with this discussion about my minor frustrations, I give you some personal strategies I used to cope with ‘culture shock’:

  • Journaling – it’s a great way to understand what you’re actually feeling. Sometimes I’ll sit down for say 15 minutes and just write literally everything that comes to mind. After that I read what I wrote and able to better process what I’m feeling.
  • Food – I brought a few snacks with me from home and whenever I need a reminder, I just eat a few Oreos. However, it doesn’t have to be something from your hometown, I also find pain au chocolat really comforting (which is great because I’m in Paris).
  • Talk to someone- whether it’s your friends back home, your friends that you’ve made, or an advisor, talking to someone is also a good way to process how you’re feeling. Most people will understand how you’re feeling, and be able to offer some advice or simply just listen.
  • Find your happy place – I have found a few in Paris: every morning when I’m taking ligne 6 and cross the Eiffel Tower or the spectacular view from one of Paris’ (many) bridges. These moments/places help remind that I’m in Paris, a city I always wanted to live in.
  • Give yourself permission to be tired/sad/lonely – I think a common feeling when you’ve travelled to a new place is feeling guilty for not appreciating everything to the fullest. Yes, you are really lucky that you got to travel/live here and (most likely) you appreciate that fact. But it’s still somewhere new that you have to adjust to. It’s okay to be tired/sad/lonely sometimes, after all you are only human. (Obligatory moral note: if you’re feeling tired/lonely sad all the time and think it’s more than culture shock, you should seek help from a professional.)

And on that note about feelings and guilt, I feel that sometimes we feel guilty for not managing other people’s expectations.

Yes, I am lucky that I’m studying abroad in Paris, I’m extremely (extremely) grateful and am doing my best to make the most of my experience; however, I am also living here, which means I do ordinary things like grocery shopping, going to school, etc. Not every moment of everyday is Instagram-worthy.

I definitely think this is something I’ll blog about again as time goes on and I have more experience in Paris. I hope this post helps you better understand ‘culture shock’ and some ways to handle it. If you have anything to add, please share it in the comments below!

À toute à l’heure! 

Tuesday Tunes: September 1

I cannot believe that it is the start of September already! Summer is almost over and with it those inexplicably catchy jams. With the start of a new month, I wanted to start a new feature here on the blog, “Tuesday Tunes”, a playlist of songs I have been enjoying for the past week or so.

Note: My music taste is pretty eclectic and can range from Top 40 hits to Broadway to R&B all in one playlist. You have been warned.

For the first “Tuesday Tunes” I decided to list a bunch of songs that I have been listening to non-stop this summer to commemorate its end.

  1. “Cool for the Summer” by Demi Lovato
  2. “She’s Kinda Hot” by 5 Seconds of Summer
  3. “Run Away with Me” by Carly Rae Jepsen
  4. “Ain’t Nobody (Loves Me Better) [Remix]” by Felix Jaehn ft. Jasmine Thompson
  5. “Pray to God” by Calvin Harris ft. HAIM
  6. “High by the Beach” by Lana Del Rey
  7. “Omen” by Disclosure ft. Sam Smith
  8. “Drag Me Down” by One Direction
  9. “Here” by Alessia Cara
  10. “Pris0ner” by The Weeknd ft. Lana Del Rey
  11. “Locked Away” by R. City ft. Adam Levine
  12. “Fight Song” by Rachel Platten
  13. “Outlaws” by Alessia Cara

Favorites for Aug 1 – 8

I fall in love with things quickly and easily.

Here are some things I loved from August 1 to 8.

beauty

Source: amazon.co.uk
Source: amazon.co.uk

freshskin by Elemis Starter Kit

books

To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before by Jenny Han

How to Be Parisian Wherever You Are by Anne Berest, Audrey Diwan, Caroline de Maigret, and Sophie Mas

Yes Please by Amy Poehler

Source: amazon.com
Source: amazon.com

tv show

Source: tvguide.com
Source: tvguide.com

instagram

@huntingforbooks

huntingforbooks instagram screenshot
Source: instagram.com/huntingforbooks

internet find

Tavi’s Editor Letter for August on rookiemag.com

Please read…

The idea for this blog came to me because I think too much and I just wanted to have a place on the  Internet to record those things. At first, I was just going to call this blog, “hannah says…”, but 1) I thought this name would already be taken (spoiler alert: it was) and 2) I decided that I am more than what I say, I’m also what I think and feel.

WordPress suggested that I use this post to tell you what you’ll find on my blog. I guess they know what they’re doing, so I’ll try to map out a general plan. (In case you haven’t noticed, I’m kind of winging it). I have several pages, like “Culture” and “TV/Movies”, and all the rest (I’m sure you’re capable of reading them yourself) where I will post things relating to said topics. I’m a very passionate person with a lot of thoughts as I already stated, but the frequency and amount of posts to each page will vary on my mood.

I’m going to try to boil down the philosophy behind each of the words I’ve chosen for the title of the blog just to rationalize it for you:

Say: It’s a statement I’m making and I won’t post anything here that I don’t mean. I mean what I say.

Think: These are just my opinions and may not be backed-up by real evidence. So please try not to get offended, I’m not trying to offend anyone.

Feel: Sometimes I think the Internet forgets that people have feelings, and since I’m a person, I have feelings, so try not to hurt them, ‘kay?

That’s all for now. You can go to my About page where it will probably be some iteration of this post to learn more about my blog. But really that’s all for now, as you were.